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Sarah and Mary

 

I’m not going to sugar coat it. Continuing to get up at random hours of the night with my 16-month-old is getting old. Some nights she sleeps 12 hours straight through. Some nights she gets up—and stays up—for upwards of three hours wanting to snuggle, explore, cry, smother the cats with love, etc. It has been a challenge to use these times to remain “in the moment,” be grateful and stay prayerful. How can we as parents remain present, be prayerful and be instruments of God during the more trying hours?

We have tried to take Mary to Mass with us as much as possible. Sometimes, I take her by myself and plunk her in our Ergo baby carrier as I greet students and make sure things are going smoothly. Many times I end up spending a good chunk of the liturgy changing a diaper or playing in the reconciliation room. We try to at least run out at communion. Sometimes crankiness or an explosive diaper prevents this. How can we as parents adapt our Sacraments around our newly birthed sacraments?

Being present and recognizing the “sacraments” of parenthood is so blissfully easy during the joyful, quiet hours. Most nights I’m the one to give Mary her bath and have the privilege of snuggling with her until she’s sleepy. These moments of peaceful snuggles, of looking into her big, brown eyes, of smelling her sweet, baby smell; have become daily sacraments to me. I have been able to turn our nighttime ritual into my daily examen and prayer time. Since Mary generally goes to bed around the same time each night, my prayer life has also become surprising regular and family-based.

After our bedtime rituals are almost complete, I sing a blessing song I learned from summer camp. Then I ask Mary what we should bless, and we name those things and people out loud. I have absolutely no idea how much she actually understands this part of our ritual, but it helps me examen my day and prepares for a bit of quiet at the end of the night.

My friend, Lu, told me how her son woke her up one day, held his hands on her cheeks and asked, “Mama, can we just look at each other for awhile?” Wow! What a lesson in the power of presence. Psalm 57 implores, “Awake, my soul; awake, lyre and harp! I will wake the dawn.”  Our children seem to encourage the same sentiment.

What a sacrament, a gift, a glimpse into the holy our children are. Their excited persistence encourages—demands, even—our attention. Being a parent has challenged me to rethink how the traditional Sacraments I experienced our living God in have multiplied into the countless, daily sacraments of parenthood.

Sarah Signorino

Sarah is the Assistant Director of both Campus Ministry and the Be the Light Youth Theology Institute at Canisius College. Sarah has been a member of the Ignatian Family for 16 years and loves all of the connections, friends and justice-y things that have developed during that time! She lives with her husband, Jerod; two daughters, Mary and Clare; and two cats, Meg and Martha, in the City of Good Neighbors: Buffalo, NY. Sarah loves reading, donuts, women’s spirituality and going on adventures with her daughters.

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  1. John Quinn says:

    Sarah

    I live just across the river in St. Catharine’s Ontario and have many connections with Canisius and the Jesuits. Thank you for your article. I have reached my biblical three score and ten – I am still awaiting Wisdom – and while still parenting I am loving grandparenting. You might enjoy an article from my blog http://www.scouserquinn.com/?p=4663 called Grandparenting as a mystical experience. The blog itself is ScouserQuinn at http://www.scouserquinn.com/ or you can check our https://www.facebook.com/NewCatholicTimes?ref=hl on Facebook.

    I think my wife taught your Lacrosse head coach Randy Mearns, he most certainly coached my oldest son, Corey, in St. Catharines, and another student of my wife’s and son of a dear friend Matt Vinc.

    My seven years of high school in Liverpool were with the Jesuits at St. Francis Xavier’s College and I did graduate studies at Boston College and spent time with many other Jebbies since I moved to Canada.

    When I work with adults on Sacramental Theology I use my 43 year marriage with Nora(O’Malley) as proof of the grace of the sacraments else I would have been kicked out on my arse years ago.

    Many thanks for the article.

    John Quinn

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    • Sarah Signorino says:

      Hi John,

      Thanks again for your email and post!
      I sent you an email back–feel free to come down to visit Canisius with your wife!

      Peace,
      Sarah

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  2. Kate Fletcher says:

    I have 68 little girls from two to twenty two in my children’s home in Kiserian, Kenya. And tips like the one above which is so compelling….are much appreciated for the Mums and Pops who work with me there….and for me as well. kate fletcher

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